{"id":417,"date":"2012-01-20T12:38:12","date_gmt":"2012-01-20T17:38:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/?p=417"},"modified":"2016-04-10T17:46:01","modified_gmt":"2016-04-10T21:46:01","slug":"meditation-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/2012\/01\/meditation-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Judging or Helping?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Tammy,<\/p>\n<p>So I arrive in your class one day.\u00a0 There is a guy there and he says he&#8217;s\u00a0happy that another guy (me) will be in the class.\u00a0 I don\u2019t think much about it.\u00a0 The guy then rattles off a whole bunch of maladies and how he is affected by them.\u00a0 I quickly decide that I will place my mat as far from his mat\u00a0as possible.\u00a0 After a class wherein you had us try a bunch of different poses, in what seemed like slow motion, I heard the guy complaining about even more\u00a0physical issues.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>I definitely avoided the guy on the way out.\u00a0 I found myself thinking this guy was tremendously annoying.\u00a0 Fortunately these thoughts did not come up during class.\u00a0 He made it clear he was into women;\u00a0so why was he happy when the room became more filled with testosterone?\u00a0\u00a0 Wouldn\u2019t his odds with women be greater if there was less competition?\u00a0 I don\u2019t know what this guy was all about.\u00a0 Why did he brag about his aches and pains?\u00a0\u00a0Are women\u00a0impressed by that?\u00a0 Maybe I&#8217;m\u00a0out of touch with picking up women but I still think they like masculine guys that appear to have their act together.\u00a0 I don\u2019t know.\u00a0 Are women attracted to men\u00a0who have negative\u00a0game and claim insecurity as a\u00a0strength?\u00a0\u00a0Wow!\u00a0 What cardboard box am I living in?\u00a0 I guess I better get to a yoga class and start crying.\u00a0 Wait a second.\u00a0 What&#8217;s this blog all about?\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Hold on.\u00a0 Maybe the\u00a0real question is:\u00a0 should I care about this dude and\/or let him bother me?\u00a0 After all, in class I didn&#8217;t\u00a0think about him.\u00a0\u00a0Am I\u00a0judging the malingerer?\u00a0 In yoga the aim appears to be voiding yourself of judgment.\u00a0 Does yoga promote helping a fellow man or letting him\/her be?\u00a0 I\u2019m probably not properly qualified to help the guy but I could tell him that women are\u00a0rarely ever turned on by verbal self-mutilation.\u00a0 As a teacher, do you try to loosen him up and tell him to take it easy or let him be and hope he figures things out?<\/p>\n<p>Did you say this yoga thing is supposed to be relaxing and freeing of the mind?<\/p>\n<p>Gary Kahn<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Tammy, So I arrive in your class one day.\u00a0 There is a guy there and he says he&#8217;s\u00a0happy that another guy (me) will be in the class.\u00a0 I don\u2019t think much about it.\u00a0 The guy then rattles off a whole bunch of maladies and how he is affected by them.\u00a0 I quickly decide that I [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[42],"tags":[15,12,22,44,58],"class_list":["post-417","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-what-is-yoga-3","tag-meditation-2","tag-what-is-yoga","tag-yoga","tag-yoga-attitude","tag-yoga-daydream"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v24.2 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Judging or Helping? - Email to My Yoga Teacher<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/2012\/01\/meditation-2\/\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"Gary Kahn\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"2 minutes\" \/>\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\/\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"WebPage\",\"@id\":\"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/2012\/01\/meditation-2\/\",\"url\":\"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/2012\/01\/meditation-2\/\",\"name\":\"Judging or Helping? - Email to My Yoga Teacher\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/#website\"},\"datePublished\":\"2012-01-20T17:38:12+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2016-04-10T21:46:01+00:00\",\"author\":{\"@id\":\"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/#\/schema\/person\/41b9355cbd68c6da9ad10d4578914319\"},\"breadcrumb\":{\"@id\":\"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/2012\/01\/meditation-2\/#breadcrumb\"},\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"ReadAction\",\"target\":[\"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/2012\/01\/meditation-2\/\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"BreadcrumbList\",\"@id\":\"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/2012\/01\/meditation-2\/#breadcrumb\",\"itemListElement\":[{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":1,\"name\":\"Home\",\"item\":\"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/\"},{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":2,\"name\":\"Judging or Helping?\"}]},{\"@type\":\"WebSite\",\"@id\":\"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/#website\",\"url\":\"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/\",\"name\":\"Email to My Yoga Teacher\",\"description\":\"What is yoga?\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"SearchAction\",\"target\":{\"@type\":\"EntryPoint\",\"urlTemplate\":\"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/?s={search_term_string}\"},\"query-input\":{\"@type\":\"PropertyValueSpecification\",\"valueRequired\":true,\"valueName\":\"search_term_string\"}}],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\"},{\"@type\":\"Person\",\"@id\":\"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/#\/schema\/person\/41b9355cbd68c6da9ad10d4578914319\",\"name\":\"Gary Kahn\",\"image\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/7453cd91da9838afce40888bb73fead99f93709d18b65a58f28309cfedc416ab?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/7453cd91da9838afce40888bb73fead99f93709d18b65a58f28309cfedc416ab?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"caption\":\"Gary Kahn\"},\"sameAs\":[\"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\"],\"url\":\"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/author\/garykahn\/\"}]}<\/script>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"Judging or Helping? - Email to My Yoga Teacher","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/2012\/01\/meditation-2\/","twitter_misc":{"Written by":"Gary Kahn","Est. reading time":"2 minutes"},"schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/2012\/01\/meditation-2\/","url":"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/2012\/01\/meditation-2\/","name":"Judging or Helping? - Email to My Yoga Teacher","isPartOf":{"@id":"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/#website"},"datePublished":"2012-01-20T17:38:12+00:00","dateModified":"2016-04-10T21:46:01+00:00","author":{"@id":"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/#\/schema\/person\/41b9355cbd68c6da9ad10d4578914319"},"breadcrumb":{"@id":"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/2012\/01\/meditation-2\/#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/2012\/01\/meditation-2\/"]}]},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/2012\/01\/meditation-2\/#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"Judging or Helping?"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/#website","url":"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/","name":"Email to My Yoga Teacher","description":"What is yoga?","potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":{"@type":"PropertyValueSpecification","valueRequired":true,"valueName":"search_term_string"}}],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":"Person","@id":"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/#\/schema\/person\/41b9355cbd68c6da9ad10d4578914319","name":"Gary Kahn","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/7453cd91da9838afce40888bb73fead99f93709d18b65a58f28309cfedc416ab?s=96&d=mm&r=g","contentUrl":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/7453cd91da9838afce40888bb73fead99f93709d18b65a58f28309cfedc416ab?s=96&d=mm&r=g","caption":"Gary Kahn"},"sameAs":["http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga"],"url":"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/author\/garykahn\/"}]}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/417","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=417"}],"version-history":[{"count":42,"href":"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/417\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":623,"href":"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/417\/revisions\/623"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=417"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=417"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/garykahn.net\/yoga\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=417"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}